If your relationship is stuck in frustrating patterns, and you want to get back on track,
I can offer you realistic, direct guidance.
The point isn't for you to spend years in therapy. It's to walk away
with insight and skills that will help you stay connected to your partner.
You can have a good relationship.
You can learn to be a good partner.
Couples counseling could help you get there.
I believe that the best way to grow is through an intimate relationship with someone else. I've seen that in my own relationships and in my clients.
My focus is couples and my training and commitment is to couples work. There is a ripple effect: by strengthening the couple, you strengthen all parts of your life from your family to your work to your friendships to how you feel about yourself.
This is the best work we can do on
this planet. Everything else springs from that fierce connection.
Outside the Box
It takes all kinds of couples to make a world and I welcome them all. I am experienced in working with the following couples/relationships:
I honor the diversity of your culture, your religious beliefs, your gender and/or your sexuality/sexual orientation.
I see problem patterns, not problem people. I work with couples to help them understand and shift those patterns, while respecting who they are and how they live their lives. I work best with clients who want a therapist who is direct, transparent, funny, flexible, moves quickly and is not afraid to tell them the truth.
Like all humans, I have blind spots and I make mistakes; I work to own those and welcome my clients challenging me.
I have experience
working with couples struggling with sexual and desire difference issues, infidelity, addictions, gender issues/ transitioning, cultural disconnect, childhood trauma/abuse, parenthood,
prejudice/social disenfranchisement and depression/anxiety.
Who I Am
I became a couples counselor because I believe that we all long to connect to others emotionally, physically, sexually, spiritually--and I wanted to help others achieve that connection.
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in Oregon with a private practice in Kenton/North Portland. I have a Master's Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Portland State University (2011).
I am certified in Relational Life Therapy with Terry Real (www.terryreal.com) and have additional training in Susan Johnson's EFT-C (Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples), Bessel van der Kolk (trauma, Dan Wile's Collaborative Couples Therapy, Esther Perel (sexuality and infidelity) and Martha Kauppi (sex, sexual desire).
I work from a family systems perspective (we are all connected in a system and making one shift can shift everything else in that system) and attachment theory (how we bonded as infants affects how we bond to our adult partners).
Before becoming a therapist, I was a journalist, editor, writing instructor, worked in midwifery, led parenting classes and groups for incarcerated teen girls. Most of my early life was spent living outside the United States. I speak conversational German and Italian and am tackling Turkish.
What I Charge
I am committed to providing affordable therapy for couples.
I charge $100 for a 75-minute session/$120 for 90 minutes and offer several spots at a generous sliding scale for couples dealing with financial hardship/crisis. Please don't hesitate to ask me about this. I can also point you towards low-cost counseling resources.
I also offer a free 20-minute consultation on the phone. I do not take insurance. I donate 10% of my pre-tax earnings to several domestic and international non-profit organizations that advocate social, racial and economic justice, gender equality, peacemaking and disarmament and ending hunger.
If my schedule is full and I cannot fit you in, please see my list of referrals (below), or email me and I will do my best to help you.
My office is in Kenton/North Portland at 2125 N. Willis next to Kenton Park.
How to Contact Me
If you have any questions about upcoming workshops/groups, please email me. And, if after you've read my website, you've got questions, feel free to reach out.
Note as of March 2020: I may have morning/daytime openings in the next month. Please email me to let me know how you found me (e.g., a therapist referral or through a former/current client of mine.) If you would like to see someone sooner, please check out my referrals below. Thank you!
Counseling for Couples
2125 N. Willis Street, Suite B
Portland, OR 97217
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Helpful Links & Resources
Resources for Couples
Terryreal.com Terry Real is the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT), a direct and practical approach to couples counseling and intimate relationships. This site offers tips and useful resources for couples.
Where Do We Begin? - a series of free podcasts hosted by Esther Perel. Each features a couple in a live session working on issues from sex/desire to parenting to cultural/gender differences.
Sexuality & Desire Resources
Referrals for Couples/Individual Therapists
There are a lot of skilled therapists in Portland. Here are a few I recommend:
Low-Cost Counseling Resources
Other Books & Resources
Wedding Toasts I Never Gave - insightful and funny collection of essays by Ada Calhoun.
Queer Eye - struggling with finding empathy or hope in anxious times? Feeling stuck? This is a different kind of reality show in which five gay men help people get out of a life/self-image/outlook ruts. Great to watch with your partner because it's all here - depression, relationships, stuck beliefs, loneliness and hope for these troubled times.. Netflix.
Addiction & Recovery
Join Katrina Gould and Sarah Pattee in 2020 for a Couples Workshop to help improve your communication skills and deepen your intimate connection. We will offer a Couples Process Group (the spring group is now closed) in the fall that offers couples a deep and supportive dive into their relationship in a group setting. For more information about any of our workshops/groups, go to Contact.
Supervision & Consultation for Therapists