If your relationship is stuck in frustrating patterns, and you want to get back on track.
I can offer you realistic, direct guidance.
The point isn't for you to spend years in therapy. It's to walk away
with insight and skills that will help you stay connected to your partner.
You can have a good relationship.
You can learn to be a good partner.
Couples counseling can help you get there.
My focus is couples and my training and commitment is to couples work. There is a ripple effect: by strengthening the couple, you strengthen all parts of your life from your family to your work to your friendships to how you feel about yourself.
I truly believe that the best way to grow is through an intimate relationship with someone else.
This is the best work we can do on
this planet. Everything else springs from that fierce connection.
Outside the Box
It takes all kinds of couples to make a world and I welcome them all. I am experienced in working with the following couples/relationships:
I honor the diversity of your culture, your religious beliefs, your gender and/or your sexuality/sexual orientation.
I see problem patterns, not problem people. I help couples shift those patterns, while respecting who they are and how they live their lives. I work best with clients who want a therapist who is direct, transparent, funny, flexible, moves quickly and is not afraid to tell them the truth.
I have experience
working with couples struggling with sexual and desire difference issues, infidelity, addictions, gender issues/ transitioning, cultural disconnect, childhood trauma/abuse, parenthood,
prejudice/social disenfranchisement and depression/anxiety.
Who I Am
I became a couples counselor because I believe that we all long to connect to others emotionally, physically, sexually, spiritually--and I wanted to help others achieve that.
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in Oregon with a private practice in Kenton/North Portland. I have a Master's Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Portland State University (2011).
I am certified in Relational Life Therapy with Terry Real (www.terryreal.com) and have additional training in Susan Johnson's EFT-C (Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples), Bessel van der Kolk (trauma, Dan Wile's Collaborative Couples Therapy, Esther Perel (sexuality and infidelity) and Martha Kauppi (sex, sexual desire).
I work from a family systems perspective (we are all connected in a system and making one shift can shift everything else in that system) and attachment theory (how we bonded as infants affects how we bond to our adult partners).
Before becoming a therapist, I was a journalist, editor, writing instructor, worked in midwifery, led parenting classes and groups for incarcerated teen girls. Most of my early life was spent living outside the United States. I speak conversational German and Italian and am tackling Turkish.
What I Charge
I am committed to providing affordable therapy for couples.
I charge $100 for a 75-minute session and offer several spots at a generous sliding scale for couples dealing with financial hardship/crisis. Please don't hesitate to ask me about this. I can also point you towards low-cost counseling resources.
I also offer a free 20-minute consultation on the phone. I do not take insurance. I donate 10% of my pre-tax earnings to several non-profit organizations that advocate for social and economic justice, gender equality, peacemaking and anti-racism.
If my schedule is full and I cannot fit you in, please see my list of referrals (below), or email me and I will do my best to help you.
My office is in Kenton/North Portland at 2125 N. Willis next to Kenton Park.
Note: I am currently full and not taking new clients. However, spots do open up. Please email me if you are interested in future counseling and please let me know if you were referred by your therapist or a former/current client of mine. Also, if you would like to see someone sooner, check out my referrals below or email me and I'll try to help. Thank you!
Counseling for Couples
2125 N. Willis Street, Suite B
Portland, OR 97217
email@example.com | 541-601-7676
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Helpful Links & Resources
Resources for Couples
Terryreal.com Terry Real is the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT), a direct and practical approach to couples counseling and intimate relationships. This site offers tips and useful resources for couples.
Where Do We Begin? - a series of free podcasts hosted by Esther Perel. Each features a couple in a live session working on issues from sex/desire to parenting to cultural/gender differences.
Sexuality & Desire Resources
Referrals for Couples/Individual Therapists
There are a lot of skilled therapists in Portland. Here are a few I recommend:
Low-Cost Counseling Resources
Other Books & Resources
Wedding Toasts I Never Gave - insightful and funny collection of essays by Ada Calhoun.
Queer Eye - struggling with finding empathy or hope in anxious times? Feeling stuck? This is a different kind of reality show in which five gay men help people get out of a life/self-image/outlook ruts. Great to watch with your partner because it's all here - depression, relationships, stuck beliefs and loneliness. Netflix.
Addiction & Recovery
Most of us aren't taught the basic skills that are at the heart of successful relationships so these skills can seem mysterious and complex. Through skill-building exercises and the interactive group experience, this group will provide you with what's been missing.
Couples Workshop Series -- September 22 & October 13, 2019
Join Katrina Gould and Sarah Pattee for two couples workshops that will improve
your communication skills and deepen your couples' connection. Each workshop can be taken as a stand alone, but we strongly encourage couples to take both, as they build on each other. Cost for workshops is per couple. You may sign up below to hold your spot. Refund policy: if you sign up and find that you cannot attend, we will credit your payment towards a future workshop.