Einstein quote about not being able to change something with the same mind that created it. How...

Like many women, I grew up in conflict with my body. Namely, I thought I was too big. Too big for...

I saw a headline the other day: Can We Survive the Rest of the Pandemic without Drinking or Doing...

Sometimes couples will describe their painful and seemingly unending struggles and end up telling...

There's a pattern I notice to couples who've stopped having:fungood argumentsthe ability to...

Sometimes I sit with couples, listening to the sturm und drang of their conflict, I feel the pain...

This is some wall. If nothing else, the automatic machine gun tower should convince you of its...

It's hard not to be awed by Lucy. Even though she only stood a meter high and weighed less than...

Sometimes I feel like this old window carved out of stone, covered with moss, hundreds of years...

This blog is part of a series on What to Ask When You're Getting Serious about Each Other. Part 1...

It's a crazy thing, this thing called love. A therapist told me the other day that she told a...

As a therapist, trying to convince people that feeling painful emotions can be valuable...well,...

When I work with couples, I want to know where and how and what they learned growing up. What...

Imagine what it must be like to be in a womb. You're floating, tethered by a pulsing cord,...

I am not innocent of phone addiction. When my 92-year-old mother told me she cured her solitaire...

Body shame is insidious; it warps how we see ourselves, how we move, what we ask for and what we...

I just met someone who moved into a new house. She did the usual things people do--hang up...

The brilliant writer James Hillman said something along the lines of "if you take away my demons,...

At some point in a relationship, we come to believe that we know everything there is to know...

I stopped at a Fred Meyer in Tillamook to use the bathroom, and I was in a bad mood. I was...