Ever heard of the 1970 film, "Love Story"? It was a tearjerker with two worn cliches at the end – the heroine died and the hero delivered a profound “Truth,” which was:
"Love means never having to say you are sorry."
Well, it’s just not true. Love means you must say you are sorry, and you must say it often.
A thriving relationship has lots of apologies. There are the little ones, the “I’m sorry I woke you up this morning when I had to get up early.” There are the big ones, the “I’m sorry I made fun of you in front of my family.” There are past apologies, such as, “I’m sorry that I was irresponsible about money when we first got together.” (Not too sure about a “future” apology concept!)
Learning how to apologize is a skill that gets better with practice. It goes like this:
It might be awkward at first and you'll want to give it your own spin. The wonderful thing about a thorough apology is you really clean up the mess and don't leave any bad feelings behind--any of which can trigger a worse fight/hurt in the future.
And, don’t worry: you will slip up--giving you more opportunities to practice your apologies.
A good apology strips away our hollow defenses and reveals our true, loving, vulnerable, human selves. Do this enough times and it will be like good sex—as pleasurable to give as to receive. Saying you are sorry does not make you a "sorry" person. It makes you stronger.
For a great article on apologies: www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1245167/Love-means-ALWAYS-saying-sorry-Why-famous-movie-lines-dumbest.html
For some bad relationship advice or at least a pretty bad movie:
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