And yet, we are surrounded by people and lots of ways to stay in touch. There is so much coming at us--things to do, learn, read, absorb, process. I wonder, though, if what we really need is the deep connectedness of sitting with another person who hears our problems, who knows who we are, who really sees us. According to one survey, in 1985, only 10 percent of Americans say they had no one they could share important topics with and 15 percent said they had only one such good friend. By 2004, 25 percent had nobody to
talk to, and 20 percent had only one confidant. Other studies have shown similar patterns--not only are we more isolated, we are also more lonely.